Saturday, October 21, 2017

Expensive Garbage

I had heard that Atlanta was a "new Hollywood hub," but I didn't actually believe it until the key location manager knocked on our door a couple months ago regarding an upcoming film about Neil Armstrong starring Ryan Gosling and Matt Chandler. The director of the recent Oscar winning film, La La Land, is also shooting this picture entitled First Man, just a couple doors down from our house.   It's all anyone seems to talk about in our neighborhood these days (myself included), but the most fascinating aspect of the picture is the gorgeous home that was built on a little open lot. The ranch house has picture perfect landscaping, a backyard pool, and beautiful stone accents that were all established in a matter of weeks. This is no facade, this is a real livable house! However, just as quickly as it was built, it will be burned down and destroyed all for the sake of "story-telling" because Neil Armstrong's home was a apparently burned when he was young. As I commented to one of the set designers about the work that goes into a masterpiece only to ruin it, he exclaimed, "That's Hollywood, we know how to make expensive garbage."
I can't help but think about the people in Santa Rosa, California  returning to their ash houses, or the people in numerous hurricane locations that have a true sense of loss right now. I'm not saying that I don't love going to the movies, nor am I telling you that I won't be walking down the street in hopes of seeing a famous face (all superficial states), but I do see the importance of holding your "stuff" at arms length. When we think that our "stuff" has significant value, we forget how quickly it can be taken or destroyed. Even those things that we think have serious nostalgic purposes or keepsakes that can't be replaced, even those aren't truly the memories. About a week after Kyra's sister gave me a pair of her old earrings, Silas broke them. I could have been furious and hurt, but I realized Kyra could have cared less about those earrings.
“Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." --Matthew 6:19-21

It's the actual events and memories we maintain in our minds that matter, not the photographs we seek to embalm. While, I love our home, it does make me see the value in selling everything and moving into an RV one day! Speaking of... here's the last photo burst that I hope I'll always have a vivid picture of in my mind.

Visiting the real Von Trapp Family Lodge was awesome!

Never realized this famous Sound of Music family moved to the US

They still loved their home country though

Silas found this empty podium and decided he wanted to "give a sermon" 

Levi wanted to be his back-up dancer! :D

Love these boys

Must return to this amazing coffee shop in Vermont one day!

Nothing like camp fire s'mores

Rain starting in Maine really made us have RV fever.

Rain = Land Before Time movie

Pictures don't do this justice... trust me.

~Garbage Buster

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Needs and Wants

Many adults still do not know the difference between a need and a want. If we sat down and really looked at the venn diagram, I'm sure we could all agree on the vastly different categories included in the two groups, but in a quick verbal match, we blurt out fallacies like children. I am consistently explaining this discrepancy to my oldest son.
I believe strongly in knowing your people. For instance, Silas is a strong-willed first born that needs to be pushed or he will push back. I know this about him, so we let him endure things we wouldn't for little Levi who doesn't push too hard.  I am fighting for their hearts right now when the stacks are low so that (Lord willing) it's not as difficult during adolescence. This means we let Silas scream and cry at the top of his lungs for hours sometimes regarding his NEED for things like water, food, or love. Now most people would be ready to call DEFAX on us because these (my smart, sly son has learned) are all considered actual "needs," yet he manipulatively has chosen to request these items when he's being punished or in a particularly foul mood. Thus, we need to show him Who's the Boss (pun intended). We have reassured Si-man that he will always get what he actually "needs," but he will not always get what he wants. A lesson we could all stand to relearn. That means sometimes he'll like his food, clothes, and activities and other times he will not, but the sooner he realizes how to trust and obey joyfully, the sooner his life will feel less like a punishment and more like a gift. Don't read your own story into this though, Silas is a beautiful first-born, but we all have our moments, and despite the beauty of our fall pictures, we all had our moments where we weren't receiving what we wanted, but we always got what we needed, so to me, this fall adventure to New England was a HUGE success. I just miss the gorgeous colors. I NEED more fall here in the south! My soul's nourishment depends on it! (Not sure where Silas gets a flare for the dramatic, but I'm looking into it.)

Happy Fall Y'all!

~Need Buster